Conflict is normal, but how we handle it matters. Here's how to navigate conflict with grace, humility, and a Christ-centered heart.

Pause and pray.

Take a deep breath. Invite God into the moment, and ask for peace and wisdom.

Check your heart.

Ask yourself: "Am I reacting out of hurt, pride, or fear?" Be honest with yourself. Humility helps us own our part without shame!

Listen to understand.

Don't interrupt. Reflect on what you hear: "It sounds like you felt..." You can still validate the other person's feelings even if you disagree.

Speak the truth in love.

Use "I" statements, not "you" statements (Ex: "I felt hurt when..." vs. "You made me feel like..."). Remember to be honest and kind while still being truthful.

Aim for restoration, not just resolution.

Ask, "How can we move forward with respect? How can we fix things now so we don't face this problem in the future?" Forgiveness may be part of the healing--don't rush it, but be open to it.

Set healthy boundaries.

Sometimes space or clarity is needed. Boundaries aren't rejection; they're protection. Make sure your boundaries are clearly communicated and implemented.

You don't have to do conflict management perfectly. You just have to do it faithfully. Give these tips a try the next time you're navigating conflict, and if you need professional help and mediation, reach out to our team.